DAY TWENTY-SIX: Help Her Out
You don’t know how much gets done until someone doesn’t do it.
Like when you throw your sweatpants on the floor, you’re not aware of the logistics involved to make them magically end up in your closet, washed and folded.
Your food is ‘shopped’, washed, peeled, cut, shredded, diced, fried, baked, cooked, and served hot, delicious and right on time.
Bills are paid.
Broken things are suddenly fixed (including hems!)
Bathrooms and windows are cleaned.
Lunch boxes are packed.
Oh the list goes on….
And usually the superhero behind all the action is the woman of the house, a.k.a not just ‘Mom’ but ‘Mom, mom, mommmmmmmm, mommy, mom, mommmmm’
Now don’t get me wrong…
Oh my God we love unloading the dishwasher 20 times a day coz you guys do it all wrong. It’s one of life’s special treats.
And it’s hilariously fun to vacuum and mop for hours, only to have you all stomp in with your dirty shoes. It’s like the highlight of our day, we relive it in our heads all night and smile with satisfaction loool.
And spending 95% of our time putting things back where they belong, ohhhh that’s just icing on the cake! It’s not tedious it’s actually the meaning of joy.
Of course dads help out too. They take out the trash twice a year. And you know, we beg them not to. We grab onto the trash bags and plead with them not to steal this happy job away from us, but they just won’t listen loool
Don’t even ask about ironing, folding, clearing away the dinner table, sweeping and cleaning inside the microwave every time someone uses it, because we both know it’s just another day in paradise!
And yes, before I forget, can you guys please ask us to run more errands? Pretty please with a cherry on top!
It’s the best feeling ever to drop every thing you’re doing, no matter how urgent it is, just to drive your teen daughter across the city because she ‘forgot’ her cellphone with her friend.
Oops, that’s my alert. I’ve reached my allowed sarcasm limit for the day loool.
This is mostly for teens:
Guys seriously, help out!
Helping your parents in the house (and by that I mean your moms loool) is a neglected Sunnah, don’t you think?
The Prophet himself (may peace and blessings be upon him) kept himself busy serving his family. He milked his goats, patched up and sewed garments and mended his own sandals.
And he taught us, “The best of you is the one who is best to his family” (Tirmidhi)
And you know he was busy spreading the word of Allah, with a mission that would last till the end of time, not busy with ‘which-snap-chat-filter-looks-better-on-me-today’
Okay that was uncalled for.
All I’m trying to say is out of all the days in the year, this is the best time to help with chores around the house. Help you parents, your siblings and help the help if you have any.
They’re definitely exhausted by now.
You’ll be reaping a lot of good rewards if you show them some kindness.
And hey, I’m sure you guys look great with any filter : )
This is strictly for parents.
I know you love your kids and they’re fasting and stuff, but if you really love them, you’ll give them chores and responsibilities.
It’s not your job to prepare life for them
It’s your job to prepare them for life and all its tough blows.
Let them share the housework.
Let them feel the value of time and effort.
Let them learn to appreciate the little things and build their self confidence.
It’s really the best act of kindness you can do…. Raise them right in a world where ‘wrong’ is synonymous with ‘normal’
Good luck (we all need it)
Ramadan Kareem everyone
See you tomorrow inshAllah
Lilly S. Mohsen